A practical, evidence-based workshop for parents who are exhausted by constant battles, emotional outbursts, homework stress, and day-to-day chaos — and who want to bring calm, cooperation, and connection back into family life.

🧠 Why This Works
(When Nothing Else Has)

If you’re raising a child with ADHD, you already know how exhausting it can be.

You try routines… reminders… rewards… charts… consequences…
and yet the same patterns keep returning The behaviour doesn't change. Well, not for long. 

The problem is that most of us were taught to try and solve these problems in a way that doesn't work.

We've always been told to focus on the resulting behaviour. I.e. we look for responses and strategies we can use when they...

👉 Interrupt mid-conversation
👉 Are restless and constantly fidgeting
👉 Zone out halfway through tasks
👉 Have an emotional outburst that seems to come from nowhere

That’s like trying to catch the horse after it’s bolted.

The real work needs to start before the behaviour.

And we do that with regulation.

You see, modern research gives us a very different understanding of ADHD.

Brain-imaging studies (Castellanos, 2021; Volkow et al., 2023) show that ADHD brains are wired for stimulation, safety, and connection.

When those essential needs aren’t met, the brain literally goes searching for ways to either “wake up” or feel secure again.

That’s why you see the fidgeting, the interruptions, the impulsive reactions, the constant movement —
they’re not defiance.

They’re self-regulation attempts.

And when we respond with more control — lecturing, punishment, withdrawal of privileges, raised voices, tighter rules — without addressing what the brain is actually asking for…

The stress goes up.
The behaviour gets worse.
Everyone ends up overwhelmed.

Whereas, when we meet the need behind the behaviour, everything changes.

And that's what this free class will give you.

When you understand how these differences show up at home, you can create instant improvements in behaviour, cooperation, and family calm.

This workshop gives you practical tools you can use the same day — not theory, not vague advice, not “try harder.”

Everything is designed to work with your child’s wiring, not against it.

How it all began

Christmas 2008. I was at a small gathering in Oslo, Norway — a friend-of-a-friend kind of thing — when I met a mother who looked absolutely exhausted.

She told me she had a 14-year-old son with ADHD and felt like she was living in constant crisis mode.

They argued daily.
Homework took hours.
He exploded over small things.
He couldn’t focus, wouldn’t listen, and seemed permanently overwhelmed.

She was heartbroken and exhausted. She told me she was out of ideas and that she was worried he would have to be taken out of school. 

I wasn’t there to coach her, I was on holiday. But as we talked, I shared a few ideas from a very early, very rough version of my system — things I’d been experimenting with in classrooms for years.

I sketched it all on a napkin and she had an aha moment right in front of me.

“So his behaviour is as much down to me as it is him. It's his environment. That's something I CAN change!” she said with a look of joy.

Two weeks later, the situation was very different. 

“It’s working. I can’t believe it.
He’s calmer. We’re arguing less.
And for the first time in a long time… he's listening to me.”

What changed?

Everything.

But it started with something very simple...

She understood his behaviour. 

Once she realised that his impulsivity, emotional storms, and difficulty focusing were not defiance…
but signals of unmet emotional and neurological needs…

...Everything started to shift.

That night in Oslo is when the Needs-Focused ADHD Solution was born. 

Since those early days I've refined my Needs-Focused ADHD Solution a great deal. I've blended it with my training as a psychotherapist and more than 30 years training and teaching experience.

This system doesn’t rely on punishments, harsh discipline, or “tough love.”

It works because it’s based on neuroscience, psychological safety, and human needs.